The gloomy days of the financial crisis loom over us. But what we’re really having is an emotional crisis.
Stop fooling yourself. And don’t be afraid. It’s time to check the balance.
Are you ignoring your most important bank account?
What’s in the vault?
It sure isn’t full of money.
In your emotional bank account, you store the value of your relationships. Here we find your dignity, your emotional luggage, and your confidence. From this account, your character grows and the core principles which will guide you through life and help you make important life decisions.
Just like with a financial bank, withdrawals are made.
You can also be robbed. And it stings, doesn’t it?
But you can also rob people from your most dire mental currency: your complete attention.
Are you on minus? There is only way to get back on plus. You have to invest in your relationships.
Invest, Invest, Invest
It’s time to check your balance. Ask yourself the following questions:
- Which relationships am I part of?
- How am I interacting with that person?
- What is the one thing I could do to invest in our relationship?
Invest in relationships you care about. It’s the most valuable investment you can make. And that includes the relationship with yourself.
Remember to start small.
In our busy, self-occupied world, anything from a phone call to a postcard can show them that you care. Right now, the key is to do it: get back in touch, go for a coffee, arrange for a skype session. Listen to your vault keeper (or your heart, whatever you prefer), and do what needs to be done.
But above all, be kind…
Be kind to your emotional bank account, especially if you’re on minus. Make small deposits and watch it grow.
Avoid using promises unless you can keep them. This is important because broken promises lead to major withdrawals and you lose confidence in yourself.
So be kind and learn to forgive yourself before the interest rate overwhelms you with pain and guilt – two nasty, but all too common, currencies in the world today.
The truth is, you can’t buy your way out of this one. Trust must be earned. Respect must be taken. Confidence grows in small doses. All you can do is to invest.
Start investing NOW
Stop ignoring your emotional bank account. You can’t afford it, not now or in the future. It’s the least you can do during the financial crisis, because without a strong emotional bank account your money won’t be fulfilling anyway.
And with a strong emotional bank account, the dollars will come.
Photo credit JvL.