Most successful people know about a secret ingredient that makes their dreams come true.
Whether you want to write a book, travel the world, make new friends, or land your dream job, there’s something you need to make it happen.
You need to know exactly why you want to do something. You need a purpose. You need fuel. Another word for that is motivation.
Embrace Your Inner Child
Remember when you were a kid and you questioned absolutely everything? You asked why the sky was blue and the sun was round.
You were curious about how the world worked, and you never stopped asking those “annoying” questions.
You were a detective, and you were looking for some answers. Why should you eat broccoli when you didn’t want to? Why were you going to your uncle’s house when your mother and her brother hated each other? So many things didn’t make any sense, especially in the adult world. They truly knew how to complicate life.
As a kid, you were crystal clear about the what, the why, the who, and the how in your life. Asking questions came naturally to you. You were a master at listening to yourself. You had dreams and goals and hopes and you weren’t afraid of sharing them with the people around you.
You danced, you sang, laughed, and cried. But then one day you stopped listening to yourself. You started listening to your friends, teachers, and parents. Not to mention your favourite TV shows, books and movies. And they were telling you all sorts of things. They slowly silenced your dreams, brushing it off, teaching you to compare yourself to others and make you feel bad about yourself.
And so you lost touch with your deeper why – the fuel that you had as a kid. Your biggest task is to DIG deep and listen to that voice again. It’s time you embrace your inner child. What do you really dream about? And why do want to do that?
The Bigger the Why, the Easier the How
Obsess about your “because”. This is your fuel, and the bigger it is, the longer you’ll go. Fill in this sentence:
“I want to _____ because/so I can ________.”
Don’t over think this. Just fill in the blanks with the thoughts that pop into your mind. No need to be overly critical and censor your thoughts. If you’re not used to listen to your deepest dreams, you may get a mental headache. This is nothing to worry about. Take a break and get back to it again.
Listen to your “because”. It will unlock your potential, show you the direction you want to go, but it also highlights the places you don’t want to go. If you don’t have a good reason, why do you want to do it? Remember this golden rule:
The bigger the why, the easier the how.
I’m sure you’ve accomplished things you didn’t think possible. I love it when we surprise ourselves. Where there is a will, there is a way. You explore your options and never give up. Like a kid, you adopt a growth mindset and seek out new adventures.
You can tap into your potential by listening to your “because”. The bigger your “because”, the more likely you will be to succeed.
Some examples of motivation at work:
- I want to visit my grandparents in Chile because I want to see them before they die
- I want to work as a teacher so I can inspire others to pursue their dreams
- I want to start a blog so I can spread my ideas
- I want to take a language course because I’m going to Spain this summer.
Take Baby Steps
Don’t stand still. Standing still is the most dangerous thing you can do, because it’s very difficult to get you started again. It’s better to take small steps and gain momentum.
Remember what we said in lesson #4, effort is king.
Very often, we assume we have to be perfect straight away. We forget how much work gets into achieving a certain goal. Work is hard. If we rely on a fixed mindset, we tend to blame ourselves and our own innate inabilities.
9 out of 10 times, this fails miserably. No matter how smart or talented you are, you must dare to be vulnerable and be ready to fall. You can’t expect everything to go smoothly without hitting a few speed bumps along the way. The key is to keep practising, to keep learning. This is the only way you will get any results, and foster your growth.
What’s the smallest step you can take today that will get you closer towards your goal?
Lean in and take that step.
More Lessons on Motivation
Because motivation is so important (it can literally change your life), I’ve written about it several times.
On my blog, check out The Secret Formula behind Finding More Motivation. This article goes into more depth about the different types of motivation and how you can use it to turn your dreams into reality.
I’ve also created a category page on my blog, where you can easily find more tips on motivation. I hope these articles will inspire you to act on your dreams and live the life you deserve.
In the next lesson, we’re going to mix things up a little. I’m going to talk about ways you can build a platform to inspire others to follow their dreams. I’ll talk about two software tools I think every person should be using to spread their ideas online. They’re quick and easy, and they make a great addition to a fun and meaningful life.
Catch you next time!
All the best,
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