You want more magical relationships.
That spark only close friends, family and lovers can share.
But you fail more often than you wish to admit.
So let the world of Harry Potter inspire you. It’s time to grow magical relationships with the people you love.
Avoid the Dursleys
Harry does everything to escape the dreadful Dursley family and rightfully so. Sure, they’re family. But they treat him like a ghost.
And it’s so unfair.
Luckily, our protagonist knows that you must never be treated like shit, because it breaks the spell of any magical relationship right from the start.
It ignores the most critical elements: mutual respect and trust.
Embrace change and continue the conversation outside the cupboard)
The Dursley family is afraid of Harry. They’re afraid of a world they know nothing about. They fear change and so they avoid the conversation.
This is a big mistake. Imagine how the Harry Potter series would have played out had the Dursleys been kind and supportive.
Any relationship – big or small – starts with building trust.
And this takes time and patience, because this kind of magic doesn’t happen over night. But give it time. It’s the magical dust that connects the two of you in the future.
Without the trust, you might as well hop on a broom and go to Hogwarts.
The Sorting Hat of magical relationships
How great would it be to have a sorting hat on your head? A voice that pairs you with other like-minded souls.
Well, look no further, because you have one.
It doesn’t have a fancy name. We call it your emotions.
Your emotions can guide you through the endless maze of relationships. If you learn how to listen to them, they’re a good indication about how well you’ll get along with someone else.
The emotional brain reads signals faster than other areas of the brain, which is why it’s so difficult to explain your feelings. Oftentimes you “just know” what to do.
(Of course, your emotions can also be wrong. But it’s scary how first impressions always last).
The magical relationships spell: make your choice
At Hogwarts, the Sorting Hat tries to place Harry Potter in a house. It’s not an easy task. He must listen to his emotions and decide.
In the end, he chooses Gryffindor over Slytherin, because he can’t stand the values and beliefs that Slytherin stands for.
This is a good rule of thumb. Never build a relationship with someone unless you share the same basic values. It just makes everything so much easier.
The bottom line is that you have to choose. It’s not fair to be “half friends” with someone or “kinda have a boyfriend”.
Either you’re in the relationship or you’re not. Magical relationships don’t happen if you don’t know where you have each other. You can hide under the invisibility cloak for as long as you like, but that’s not going to change the fact that you have to choose your friends, your family and your lovers.
You might as well cast the relationship spell and make a choice.
The “magic” recipe to building magical relationships
Here’s a brief summary of how to build magical relationships:
- Avoid the Dursleys.
- Build trust.
- Listen to your emotions – they’re your “Sorting Hat”.
- Don’t be “half friends” with someone. Let people know where you stand.
Relationships evolve over time; they are never fixed and sterile. That’s what makes them so valuable.
So go out there, wave your magic wand and care about the people you love. It’s the closest to magic we Muggles will ever get.