We avoid rejection like the plague.
In our mind, it brings failure and misery into our lives and nobody wants that.
But what if we’re wrong? Perhaps rejection is our long-lost friend who is in desperate need for a hug.
Here’s why we are better off to embrace rejection rather than to fear it.
Rejection helps us evolve
We can’t move forward without rejection. It sounds counterintuitive but that’s because we ignore the value that rejection adds to our lives. When we get rejected, we become forced to inspect ourselves. We turn inwards for a moment of personal reflection and ask ourselves:
- Why did I get rejected?
- Did I do something wrong?
- What can I improve until next time?
Rejection is often a difficult and painful process.
We don’t want to admit that we have faults or that there are others out there who are better than us. We want our love lives, careers and relationships to run smoothly without the fear of being let down.
But that’s not reality. In the real world, people get rejected every day.
Rejection strengthens your vision
A dose of rejection can be good for you.
Sure, it’s not like you say: “Hooray, I didn’t get the job!” after you come back from a one-hour long interview. But it encourages you to become better at what you do and who you are. In the process, you learn to be humble and strengthen your vision of your work.
Let’s take J.K. Rowling as an example.
She was rejected 12 times before she got the chance to publish the magical books of Harry Potter. Imagine the endless faith that she must have put into her work.
Do you share the same belief? If not, you need to sharpen your vision.
Don’t let the fear of rejection control you
If you fear rejection, you will eventually let it control you. It will limit your options and govern your actions. It will also affect your confidence levels and your emotional bank account will suffer because of it.
Our brain often exaggerates the aftermath of a rejection. It tells us to stay away, that it’s the end of the world, and that we’ll be a failure for the rest of our lives.
That’s both wrong and dangerous. And you must fight it by any means possible. Cry it out, go to the gym, seek help from your supportive party crew. Allow yourself to be vulnerable because it will set you free.
Rejection is nothing but a longer word for no. Successful people don’t take no for an answer. And neither should you.
Now over to you. How do you deal with rejection? Can you think of other ways to embrace it? Please share your thoughts and concerns in the comments.
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