Have you ever done nothing for twenty minutes?
For the past month, I’ve meditated in silence.
Twenty long minutes of sitting still and counting my breath.
It’s scary at first. Then you feel guilty and dumb.
I’m not doing anything productive! Why am I doing this?
I often look to our family dog for inspiration. He knows how to live moment by moment.
So, why it is so hard to do nothing? I have an idea.
Why it’s so hard to do nothing
When we do nothing, our emotions start to bubble up to the surface.
And we do anything to avoid it.
We surf the web, binge-watch Netflix, and check our social media feeds. We go to great lengths to avoid the Fear of Doing Nothing.
These distractions are all symptons of a bigger problem. We’re out of tune with our emotions, and we need to have the courage to reconnect with them.
Practice the muscles of emotion
We’re so scared to feel bored, sad, or any other “negative” emotion.
Instead, we constantly evaluate each other’s performances through the built-in evaluation systems that various platforms provide us.
This behaviour takes a toll on our wellbeing.
We compare ourselves with how others LOOK to how we FEEL.
This discrepancy is a recipe for disaster.
Everyone else LOOKS busy, important and perfect, but we FEEL inadequate, guilty and less-than. It’s an equation that doesn’t add up because we’re comparing different things.
To switch off becomes a way for us to reconnect with ourselves.
Do less, be more
Invite nothing into your life and see what happens.
I am certain something will show up. Maybe something unexpected. Maybe something you’ve ignored. Maybe something really important.
You won’t know until you sit down and do nothing.
Have the courage to simply be. And don’t feel bad about it.